An Advice Column
By Patti Feinstein
An ongoing advice column for the discerning single. Readers are invited to submit questions about dating, relationships, matchmaking, and the quiet complexities of navigating love later in life. Each week, a letter is answered with the discretion, honesty, and experience of a matchmaker who has spent decades inside these conversations.
A divorced professional asks how to start dating again after years of marriage. Patti Feinstein shares practical advice on rebuilding confidence, knowing who you are now, and why the apps might not be the right first step.
Read ColumnA reader in Naples asks what a luxury matchmaker actually does behind closed doors. Patti Feinstein explains the difference between executive matchmaking services, dating apps, and traditional matchmaking — and why the most expensive option isn't always the most valuable.
Read ColumnA successful man asks whether AI can find him the right woman. Patti Feinstein explains why more choices and better technology haven't made finding the right person any easier.
Read ColumnA reader with six homes asks whether they need a different matchmaker for every city. Patti Feinstein explains why “matchmaker near me” is the wrong question.
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